Soft Energy — March Affirmation
💬 I choose to return to the soft energy that lives in my heart, no matter how many hats I wear throughout the day.
Last month, I wrote about the necessity of choosing myself; of drawing those lines in the sand and reclaiming my no.
I learned that boundaries are non-negotiable, and setting them is not a betrayal of others. However, once I drew these boundaries, a new question came to mind:
What if I can change my approach without losing my essence?
Now I have come to realize that while we may wear many types of hats, for example, friend, boss, or softie, we don’t have to become the fabric of those hats.
Why Soft Energy Became This Month’s Affirmation
For as long as I can remember, I have naturally felt the urge to tap into my so-called boss-power.
To give you a bit of clarity, and without going too deep, I have put up walls and not let people get to know who I truly am. By doing so, I have held people at arm’s length, denying my soft energy to carry me forward.
Truthfully, I have guarded myself so much that a masculine energy became my default response. Assertiveness, determination, dominance, and forcefulness have been my favorite hats. Or maybe even reserved.
Those hats are beautiful when you are solely focusing on input and output, which I did. Always focusing on success and results above everything. Yet, my tribe—my family and friends—would agree that I am much softer than I appear.
Hence, the dissonance of being known as soft while choosing to act hard became a recurring cycle. I eventually had to ask myself why I was so terrified of lowering my walls.
Why do I deny myself love and connection by not letting people in? Might this be an old wound based on memory? It is.
But I refuse to let my old wounds dictate how I live my life. Lowering my walls doesn’t mean that I am denying what has happened; it is rather that I am choosing to reframe the past by allowing love and connection to enter my life. To not let fear, specifically the fear of abandonment, rule my life.
After much introspection, something inside of me shifted, and I started thinking:
What if not assuming the worst thing would actually be the best thing? Better, what if a lot of doors would open if I allowed my soft energy to come through?
What the Shift Taught Me
This month, I am learning that my soft energy is one of my greatest strengths. I have come to understand that my hats are a natural part of life. You could say they are the clothing I wear to navigate different environments.
A sense of ease is what best describes my current state. I have finally started to accept myself, and that I am fluid.
By accepting this, I no longer feel the need to apologize for adapting. Instead, I am learning to treat my soft energy as my anchor.
The more I move, the more I shift, and the more hats I have to wear, the more vital it becomes to have a place to return to.
🌼 More for later
Want to keep exploring our affirmations?
→ Choosing Myself
→ I Move Forward With Clarity
What Soft Energy Looks Like in Practice
This affirmation serves as a reminder that you can be fierce and gentle at the same time. You can be highly capable and deeply gentle.
For me, it is about the return. When a meeting ends, or a task is complete, I set aside the hat of efficiency and sink back into the soft, intuitive energy that lives in my heart.
It looks like:
🤍 Taking a five-minute pause after a transition to breathe and check in: Am I still me, or am I just reacting?
☁️ Allowing myself to rest when the situation doesn’t require me to be on.
🕊️ Recognizing that when others are projecting hardness onto me, I can meet them with compassion without adopting their armor.
Ultimately, how others react is not my responsibility. I choose how I respond to the emotions of others.
My emotions are my own, and the hat I wear reflects my free will.
Moving From Performing to Being
At the heart of this month’s affirmation is a shift from performance to presence.
When we operate from our soft energy, we aren’t people-pleasing; we are simply existing in our most authentic state. Ultimately, we stop trying to control how the world perceives us.
When you trust your soft energy, the hats you wear stop feeling like masks. Instead, they feel like experiences, teaching you to participate in the world without being consumed by it.
Finding Your Anchor
This month, I am practicing the art of coming home to myself, over and over again. By building this foundation of soft energy, the world feels less like a series of demands and more like a series of opportunities to be who I truly am.
If this affirmation about soft energy resonates with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments or on Instagram @longbluofficial.
Finally, let me know:
🌿 What is one hat you’ve been wearing lately that feels heavy to take off?
🌿 What does your soft energy feel like when you finally return to it?
When we share these reflections, we remind each other that we don’t have to be hard to be whole.
Elevate your soft energy. Empower your presence. Evolve through your fluidity.
Hugs,
Mikki
🌾 Explore the Affirmation Series
Explore all monthly reflections in one place — each created to support presence, strength, and clarity.
→ See the full Affirmation Series